Pain being the event in the moment 
Suffering being the mental process that goes with it
Most people in these situations retract and isolate. Maybe it's time to break this pattern and break these rules reach out and connect.
Don’t suffer alone.
Just by breaking the isolation / retreat habits, you can start to disable the pattern. This can be a life changer and so simple. 
This is why it's important to have a support group.  If you haven't got a support group yet, then f**k it, nudge me instead and I will step in to help you break the rules of isolation. 
Does it take courage ? Yes it does!
Are the rewards many ? Yes! 
Your freedom is the other side of breaking this pattern. 
If you feel you need any help to understand or get clear on any of the patterns I have written about above, then why not just ask a question?
#selfacceptance #fulfilment #becomeyourownhero #beingyourguide